Parents should understand and explore their own temperaments in a continued effort for personal growth. Steiner requested        Teachers do self observation and study so they could learn more about        themselves and how better they could serve the children. He stated the        importance of the adult remaining in balance, because "a teacher's        unbridled temperament can be harmful to a child".
From   Rhythms of Learning:
"Everything that adults do makes an impression on the        child's soul. These impressions work their way into the child's breathing,        circulation and metabolism and can affect that child's health in later        life."
"According to Steiner, teachers (and parents)         with an overly strong choleric temperament cause children to live in dread        of their fury. This dread penetrates into the child's metabolism and can        lead to disorders of the metabolic system in adulthood.  Teachers        (parents) who are overly melancholic can be so preoccupied and        self-involved that they behave coolly toward the children. This lack of        warmth can cause disorders of the respiratory and circulatory systems in        later life. Teachers (parents) who are overly phlegmatic and not        sufficiently responsive to children can cause a certain dullness to arise        in adulthood. Sanguine teachers (parents) who give themselves up to every        impression, hastening from one thing to the next, fail to arouse        sufficient inner activity in the child. The lack of inner activity can        result in a lack of strength and vital force in adulthood.
As Teachers (parents) we therefore have a        RESPONSIBILITY to strive to MASTER OURSELVES, to bring ourselves into        harmony and balance, so that we can promote this health and well-being on        the students (our children) for the rest of their lives.
Waldorf teachers recognize that we affect our students        not just through curriculum and the subjects we teach, not just by the        methods we use, buy by WHO WE ARE.
Who am I to stand before my students (children) as a        representative of humanity? How can I, with all my faults and limitations,        guide my students (children) toward their higher selves? We must remember        that what is most important to our students (children) is not our        achievements but our STRIVING.   
Each of us in the process of becoming. Our students        (children) are often our teachers in this process. They force us to face        our shortcomings and limitations and inspire us to continue to strive to        transform ourselves. By working on ourselves, we work on behalf of our        students (children). By coming to know ourselves, we learn to know our        students (children).
Anthroposophy is a meditate path and a WAY OF LIFE that        supports this striving."
(source: Rhythms of Learning)
In        The Four Temperaments Rudolf Steiner said: "We learn to        know individual human beings in every way when we perceive them in the        light of spiritual science. We even learn to perceive the child this way.        Little by little we come to respect, or value, in the child the        peculiarity or enigmatic quality, of the individuality; we also learn how        an individual must be treated in life, because spiritual science doesn't        merely provide general, theoretical directions. It guides us in our        relationship to the individual in the solving of the questions we need to        solve. Such solutions require that we love the individual as we must,        otherwise we merely fathom others with the mind. We must allow the other        to work upon us completely. We must let spiritual scientific insight give        wings to our feelings of love. That is the only proper soil that will        yield true, fruitful, genuine human love; it is the basis from which we        discover what we must look for as the innermost kernel in each        individual."
one of the things i think we all need to ask ourselves, myself included, speaks to one of the statements in here. do we always talk to our children with patience and kindness? do we always talk to them like they MATTER and are the most important thing in our lives? i know when i'm stressed out, it shows in how i talk to my girl; it's something i am always working on. I am always reminding myself that she does not know, nor should she understand, my stress, or why i would be frustrated with her. Children will mimic all we do - and if I am always snappy and short with her and full if impatience, she will be that way in her life to the people she grows up to deal with. No bueno!! :)
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